Heck no! You are an amazing parent and will continue to be. The idea of sleep training ruining the parent-child bond or affecting your child’s connection with you are unfortunately the types of misinformed messages you can find on social media. Babies will not become dysregulated if you sleep train them. They don’t “give up.” They eventually learn that they are capable of doing it on their own.  It’s not dysregulation and giving up; it’s learning to sleep on their own. As parents we hear a lot of judgments such as you must breastfeed, baby wear, co-sleep and keep the baby close to you at all times. All those things are great, but there are additional ways to create secure attachment without them too. And if you and babe are not getting the quality sleep you need, then is it really working for you?

Parents' number one question or concern is always about crying, and with good reason! We get it, it’s never easy to see your child upset and we feel that heartache along with you. Frankly, you are probably experiencing a lot of crying already with an overtired baby. Being well rested significantly decreases crying overall. Any time we make changes to established routines, there will likely be some level of protest and sometimes that can include some dramatic tears (shout out to the toddler parents who see this when they won’t let their child eat the cat food)!!

There’s a broad range of methods for sleep coaching. On one end of the spectrum is the “Cry It Out,” which many people fear when they think about sleep training. On the other end is a ‘no-cry’ or very gradual, gentler approach that you will hear a lot about when doing research on the topic. No sleep training method is truly tear-free, and it’s unrealistic to expect one or to market it as such. A completely tear-free approach is either extremely slow, involving months of gradual changes, or relies on an unusually easy-going baby temperament. Babies cry and that is not just ok, it is a part of who they are!

Our approach strikes a balance between these extremes. While you can expect some tears as your baby adjusts to the changes, you’ll be able to support them with your presence, words, and touch when needed. If your baby needs something, we will attend to their needs. If their voice and behavior shows us that they are frustrated because they are exhausted and trying to sleep, we will coach you to give them space. We want to help them to learn to sleep independently as easily as possible, with as few tears as possible. Our approach works quickly and easily, and with our ongoing support afterwards, it’s sustainable. We see tears drastically improve once sleep improves and the goal is always to have a baby going down happy and waking up happy.

The optimal time for sleep coaching is ultimately when YOU feel ready. There’s no “perfect” time and you will hear lots of different opinions on this topic—what matters most is your readiness and commitment to making a change and being consistent. Whether you’re considering starting sleep coaching early or are further along in your parenting journey, we have strategies and advice suited to every scenario. We understand that every family’s circumstances are unique, and we’re here to help no matter your situation.

Sleep props are tools or methods that your child relies on to fall asleep, such as holding, rocking, feeding, soothers, or car rides. These props can be helpful during the newborn stage but may become less effective as your child grows.

There's nothing inherently wrong with these “crutches”—they often serve a valuable role in early infancy and are often unavoidable with sleepy newborns and short awake times. However, as your child develops, many families find these methods are no longer suitable or sustainable, and a change is needed. Our goal is to have confident, capable and happy children who are able to put themselves to sleep and stay asleep without you always having to do it for them. We want to free you from being nap-trapped or stuck in a rocking chair all night.  It is best for you and best for your babe to get the quality sleep you all need. 

Every babe is different. Consistency and commitment to your sleep plan are crucial for helping your baby learn to sleep better quickly. It's important to start only when you feel ready so that you can stick with it. Teaching a new way to fall asleep and introducing new habits takes time—don't expect immediate results or that your baby will sleep through the night after just one day- although it has happened!

There will be lots of little wins starting on night one, then you should begin to see big improvements within 3-5 days. We know from experience, both personal and from working with hundreds of families, that dreamy sleep is achievable and you will get there!

Yes! We have experience in all these scenarios and can work with you and your family to create a plan that works for your lifestyle and packed house. 

Absolutely! We ourselves are avid travelers (it is much easier with a rested family!) and we understand you want to live your usual lifestyle as well as do things you never could do before. As long as all caregivers are onboard, we can include family members in the process and will provide an easy-to-follow plan to share as well as recommendations on how to prep a new space for sleep. We do suggest that no big trips with time zone changes are planned during the program but a simple environment change or weekend getaway is easy to manage! We can also practice travel-friendly scenarios during our time together and will ensure you have all the tools you need to keep your baby sleeping healthily on the go whether that’s Europe, grandma’s house or a campground!

Sometimes it just isn’t meant to be. On our discovery call we will go over your current struggles and sleep goals.  From this, we can discuss if we are a good fit to work together. This is a judgment free zone and we know that there are many ways to address sleep struggles. Every family is different and we want to work with those that we align with and know we can help. 

We cannot help you sleep train your baby if: parents want to continue to co-sleep; there are caretakers managing bedtime who don’t approve of sleep training and won’t be following the plan, or if you have a toddler who is under 2.5 years old who has already moved out of their crib. 

We will work with toddlers in big kid beds, ideally closer to 3 years old and can accommodate children in daycare as long as the consistency is happening at home, knowing that expectations and goals may be different than having a 110% controlled sleep environment day and night. But let’s chat, there are always exceptions to the rule and talking it through is always best. 

We hear this all the time and have seen it work with hundreds of families. We get it! You have already ‘tried it all’ and it can feel hopeless. Our program will work. Parents who are committed to the changes and follow the plan are amazed at how it works for their ‘worst case’ ever child! Trust us, we have seen it all and we know what we are doing! During our calls, we will let you know if we have any doubts and we’ll tell you straight. Unfortunately babies are not super sleeping robots! They get sick, they get teeth, and there are real life situations that can cause setbacks. But here’s the thing – we will set you up with all the tools you need to overcome any challenge. If your babe needs a little more time on the program or we need to pivot to get it right, we wll! We consider helping families an honor and will do everything we can to ensure you get the sleep your family deserves. If you are the super rare, once in a lifetime case where it doesn’t…we will refund you and eat our words!